Grief Expressions Summer Camp Keeps 13-Year-Old Boy’s Memory Alive

Malena Attar Press

(Morristown, New Jersey) – After 5 days of camp, friends and family joined 50 campers for their grand finale performance for Grief Expressions Summer Camp. Grief Expressions Summer Camp brings together 1st- 8th graders from throughout New Jersey who have experienced the death of someone important in their life. Isolation and loneliness are some of the most common effects of grief, and research shows that without support, grief directly impacts a child’s overall health and wellbeing. By bringing together children and teens with similar experiences, the camp created a community of kids who could understand and support one another.

Santiago Daniel Abut

The final exhibition and performance was held in memory of 13-year-old Santiago Daniel Abut (Santi), who died 10 years ago. “Santi loved the performing arts and frequently talked about becoming a professional actor,” said The Santiago Abut Foundation’s founder and Santi’s dad, Daniel Abut. “Santi was as kind and generous a kid as you could ever meet; he always wanted to help others.”

The Abut family enrolled in Good Grief’s peer support programs in 2008, right after suffering a most unimaginable and devastating loss. Good Grief’s mission is to provide unlimited and free support to children, teens, young adults, and families after the death of a mother, father, sister or brother, through peer support programs, education, and advocacy. “Losing a child is so unnatural; you can never be prepared for something like that,” reflected Mr. Abut. “Grieving is a very individual process, and each member of our family had to go through it at their own pace and forge their own path in this journey. Good Grief allowed my wife Sonia and daughters Victoria and Caroline, and I to do just that, but, at the same time, it offered us something tangible that we could do together, as a unit, and that proved essential for us, because it normalized the process of talking about Santi at home, and it bound us stronger together as a family.”

Within a year of Santi’s death, the Abut family established a private foundation (which they fully fund) to keep their precious little boy’s memory alive. The Santiago Abut Foundation’s mission is to help finance worthy projects in the arts, education, and grief support services, in loving memory of Santi. One such project is Good Grief’s 2018 Grief Expressions Summer Camp. The Santiago Abut Foundation considered this program, and its partnership with Good Grief, a perfect fit, meeting two of its key priorities at once: helping grieving kids, and doing so by using the arts as a vehicle for exploration and expression.

Grief Expressions Summer Camp’s diverse activities were made possible by the community’s efforts to support grieving kids. Through local partnerships, campers were able to participate in art, music, writing, photography, and drama. Through the arts, kids were able to develop their sense of self and build the necessary skills to express their feelings. “It’s really nice to meet other kids that have a similar experience as you,” said Cecily, a 12-year-old camper. “Once I told my story to the other kids in my group, I felt like I could be myself. At school I have to act like I’m okay all the time so people don’t think I’m weird. But at camp, I feel like I can be me.”

This feeling of comfort and connection permeated the final camp performance, as all campers and most guests had experienced the loss of a loved one. Their grief was accompanied by a learned empathy and a sense of deep appreciation. “With the right support and enough time, all of us grieving the loss of a family member are eventually able to come out of the experience stronger, resilient, and most appreciative of the best things that life can offer,” Mr. Abut said to the campers and the audience. “Your priorities change, you become more aware of what is really important in life and what is not. And precisely because you now understand- more than ever before- how precious and fragile life is, you commit to live with purpose, to make every day count, and to give back and help others in need, which, in a virtuous cycle, helps you as well.”

If you are interested in learning more about Grief Expressions Summer Camp or in becoming a partner please contact Melissa Parrish at Melissa@good-grief.org, or 908.522.1999 x8003.

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Good Grief is respected as a national leader in delivering grief services to children and their families. Since its founding in 2004, Good Grief’s mission has been to provide unlimited and free support to children, teens, young adults, and families after the death of a mother, father, sister, or brother through peer support programs, education, and advocacy. With centers in Morristown and Princeton, New Jersey, Good Grief currently provides support to over 550 participants each month. Good Grief is a registered 501(c) (3) tax-exempt non-profit organization. For more information about Good Grief, please visit our web site www.good-grief.org.